Complaining with “scheme” is more effective
Complaining that he was late?
Complaining that he doesn’t want to change his smelly socks?
Revised the famous saying of Daoming Temple: Complaining is useful, how can there still be complaining women in the world?
In fact, complaining is not a matter of verbal effort, and ingenuity is indispensable. As mentioned by Zhou Gongzi above, people have different lives and ca n’t get sweets. Of course, using dim sum measures, the circuitous and euphemistic trend will inevitably achieve the effect of complaining.
Conflict: Since I was together, I have been the object of his progress.
He constantly compares me with my friend’s wife, picks on what I wear, judges my cooking skills, and asks me what I can do.
It’s like parental control over children.
I was tired from home after work. I wanted to watch TV. He criticized me for not being aggressive and letting me read.
I’m so tired, thinking about my favorite lifestyle.
But every time I complained, he said it was for my good and could not tolerate my objection.
How can I complain?
Solution Ineffective 抱怨 Bedside complaining-what do men fear most about women in bed?
The answer is complaining, which is said to be a stupid idea that makes men decide quickly.
What a wonderful happy hour, don’t turn the battlefield of love into the battlefield of confrontation.
It’s like don’t take home for work, don’t bring emotions to bed, hurt your body and hurt your feelings.
Emotional loss of control, excitement and swearing-can’t control his emotions, and scold his ancestors for eighteen generations?
This was a fatal complaint.
If you get too out of control and use overly aggressive language, not only can you not make your complaint clear, he will also think that you are not happy with him, not some things.
Use a euphemistic tone to give you more control over your emotions.
Witch-like image-you complain in the image of a blame, and he just dumps garbage as if you are a blame.
You have to keep in touch with his eyes softly, but don’t be as sharp as spitting fire.
Just when it was a serious negotiation, don’t distribute it in a shameless manner.
Psychologists have found that men are more receptive to well-dressed women.
The request is unreasonable-complaining must be realistic. If you ca n’t make the request, he wo n’t be able to complain, and he will think you ‘re making trouble.
For example, you complain that he left you out, but you can’t complain that he can’t pick you up and down every day.
But you can ask him to try to stay with you for the weekend.
Exaggerate-what is the purpose of your complaint?
Not only vent his emotions, but also hope he can correct them.
Then don’t subjectively exaggerate your feelings and exaggerate the facts.
You do this, no doubt giving him a reason to justify: I did not do so, it is your own understanding.
Effective Choose good timing-you are upset, he is annoyed, it is never a good time to complain.
Not only you can’t control his emotions, he is also easy to dislike and reject.
Decreasing the volume-not raising the sound up octave violently, on the contrary, controlling the volume of sound is equal to controlling the emotion, reducing the sound to a level that only he can hear.
Private: If you accuse him in public of doing wrong, he will be annoyed and rebelliously refuse to correct it.
You can avoid the environment of conflict, choose an outdoor occasion, open spaces such as squares, parks, etc. to listen to the content of complaints.
Propose a solution-After you complain about the dissatisfaction, you may suggest that he propose a solution to the problem, “I’m too tired at night and I really don’t want to read a book. What time do you think it would be better to read?
“If he doesn’t pay much attention, you can put forward reasonable suggestions for improvement, which can avoid long-term disputes and reach a consensus faster.
Written Complaints-When you can’t control your emotions, the second complaint has become a world war. Maybe you can change it and replace the face-to-face expression with a smokeless email.When people turn their words into written expressions, they need to think about certain language logic. It is a process of calmly thinking about problems and avoiding excessive attitudes and actions.